how changing my diet changed my fertility

While I was deep in the pit of infertility, I used to search the internet for success stories. I never really considered putting myself through a lot of medical testing and procedures to get pregnant. Not that there is anything wrong with that, it just wasn’t the path for me. I always figured it would be too expensive and that if I was meant to have a child, I would, interventions or not. I also felt that God intended me to learn something from the experience, even if I wasn’t exactly excited about learning whatever it was he was trying to teach me. So, I searched for stories of women who were able to get pregnant on their own. After awhile, I stopped looking. It was too painful to allow myself to hope that it might happen.

When my first marriage was in the beginning stages of its demise, after about 3 years of trying to conceive, I decided to finally see a doctor, mainly just to get some answers and find out if there was really anything wrong. I think it was also a last ditch effort to try to save my marriage. My doctor told me he thought I might be insulin resistant and prescribed a blood sugar regulating medication. He told me to try it for 3 months and if I wasn’t pregnant by then, we would move on to something else. The medication made me very sick to my stomach and things finally reached a point in my marriage that it was pointless for me to take it anyway. It was over. No baby and I had to start from square one.

Fast forward to a few years later. I was remarried to Michael and we also had been trying to conceive for close to 3 years with no luck. My ex had gone on to have 2 children after we divorced, so if there was ever any doubt that the problem was with me, it was laid to rest by then. I was broken…in more ways than one.

One day, I was online looking for a recipe. I had some odds and ends around the house that I wanted to use up, and was trying to find a yummy way to use them all together. I ended up on a recipe that I found on Mark’s Daily Apple. I started reading and I kept reading and reading. Mark’s site talked about the Primal diet and the many health benefits of eliminating grains, sugar, and processed foods from your diet.  It made sense to me.  It sparked something it me and I decided to give it a try.  I was tired of being sick and tired.  I was overweight, depressed, tired, and just done.

I’m an all or nothing kind of person when it comes to food.  I’m prone to be either super-strict on a diet or completely gluttonous and just let myself go.  I tried to ease my way into this new way of eating, but that only lasted for a day or two.  I needed to cut out all the bad stuff completely or not at all, so on day two or three I eliminated sugar, grains, and most processed foods from my diet.  I also stopped eating white potatoes, beans, and peanut products.  My main goal in making these changes was to lose weight and hopefully feel better but, as I read more about the benefits of eating this way, I started to wonder if it might improve my fertility.  I kept a journal of what I ate every day and started tracking my cycles again…just to see.  That was in mid-February.

A few days after starting the diet, I went to an acupuncturist to see if that could remedy the debilitating headaches that had plagued me for years.  I also secretly wondered if that might impact my fertility.  I had read that it could help, but I didn’t want to get my hopes up.  I didn’t want to be disappointed again.  The acupuncturist had me complete a lot of paperwork and asked me a lot of questions about my health.  He also came to the same conclusion that the fertility doctor had years ago.  Insulin resistance.  Pre-diabetic.  He advised me to eat more protein and fat and less carbs and starchy foods, something that I had already started to do. The treatment was wonderful and I wish I could have afforded to return on a regular basis.  But, I never went back.  I didn’t need to.  In mid-April, I started to feel “off”.  Even though I didn’t want to allow myself to hope, I started to wonder if I might be pregnant.  I started tracking my temps again and though it was late in my cycle, my temps were consistently high.  I decided to stop after work one day and buy a pregnancy test.  Part of me expected to see a blank white space staring back at me, but another part of me just knew.  Sure enough, two blue lines showed up on the test.  I couldn’t believe it, so I quickly used the other test that came in the 2-pack.  It was also positive.  I remember falling down on my knees and sobbing, thanking God for this miracle.  I never thought I would be able to have my own child…and finally…it was my time. After two months of following a Primal diet, I was pregnant.  And those debilitating headaches?  They were gone.

I often tell people that changing my diet helped me to get pregnant…and I believe that it did.  But I don’t want to dismiss God’s hand in all of this.  Like I said earlier, if it was His intention for me to get pregnant sooner, I would have.  My timeline wasn’t the same as His.  He had a lot of work to do in me first.  I had to let go of the demons of my past and start loving myself.  After the heart wrenching divorce and picking up the pieces again, I had finally stopped feeling sorry for myself and decided to take care of myself.  I had wallowed long enough.  I wanted to be healthy, physically and emotionally, regardless of whether or not I became a mom….and going Primal was part of that.

Seeing the impact of a Primal diet on my health made me certain that I wanted to stay Primal during my pregnancy and beyond.  I managed to do that for the most part.  I had occasional cheats, but I really did my best to stick with it and I still eat Primal most of the time.  With the holidays just winding down, I really need to get back to strict Primal, especially since we are trying for Baby #2.  🙂

I know that changing to a Primal diet isn’t the answer for everyone, but if you are struggling with unexplained infertility, PCOS, irregular menstrual cycles, or other hormonal imbalances, why not give it a try?  Fortunately, there is a lot of new research emerging that supports the idea that grains, sugar, and processed foods can really impact fertility, and I am so glad to see the information getting out there.  Here are just a few other sources for information on this.  You can also do a Google search for “paleo and fertility” or “primal and fertility” and find tons of stories from other women who got pregnant without any medical intervention, after changing their diet.

Is Wheat Making You Wait for Babies? by Dr. Kelly Brogan, M.D.

Primal Nutrition and Fertility by Mark Sisson

*Please note that I am not a doctor or nutritionist and I am only speaking from my own personal experience.

19 thoughts on “how changing my diet changed my fertility

  1. Carrie,

    I’m so glad I came across this post. Very informative and encouraging to read! So happy for you finally seeing those two blue lines you had waited so long for! God’s timing is perfect. Thank you for sharing, and I do believe I will give this a try!!

    God Bless,


    • Melissa, thank you for reading. It brings me joy to think that my story could maybe help someone someday. I pray that His peace will be with you while you wait.


  2. This post is pretty old so I’m not sure you’ll even see it! I just want to say thank you so much for sharing your story! Also I would love to hear more about the changes you made in order to get pregnant. I recently cut out processed foods, added sugars, dairy, and gluten. I’m really hoping it will be the solution after almost a year and a half of trying for a baby, but I would love to have more suggestions!

      • I actually found out I was pregnant less than a month after making this comment, sadly had an early miscarriage. However, I was lucky enough to get pregnant again the following cycle. I am currently 12 weeks! 😊 I fell off a lot of my healthy eating habits in the last few weeks because the food aversions are strong, but plan to get back to it in the 2nd trimester! Thanks for the response!

      • Oh, I am so sorry for your loss, but congrats on your rainbow baby. I had the same experience with food aversions during the first trimester and fell off the wagon a bit, but then I was able to get back on, except for the occasional ice cream and KFC binges…lol. Wishing all the best for a healthy pregnancy!

  3. You know what, thank you SO much lady. Ive been scouring the net for over a year now for something realistic and feasible. Im stuck in the same rut just as you’ve described, 3 years now. Struggling with weight loss, increasing difficulty with my fertility. Im definitely going to try this primal diet, I pray you are well and have success too. You might not even see this, but your words are still having a positive effect years on ☺☺

    • There is tons of info out there now on Primal and Paleo eating. It has made a huge difference in my life. Thanks for reading. I hope that you find some answers. I really think diet can make all the difference for so many health issues.

  4. Carrie,

    I just read your story about TTC and OMG I’m so inspired! Our stories match! My husband and I have been trying for 5 years now with no luck! Your post gave me hope! Thanks for sharing your story! God bless you!

  5. Hi Carrie,

    How exciting. My husband and I are trying as well and hoping our diet with be a big help. We have been tested and everything seems good so this is my last effort. I have cut all sugars, and carbs out of my diet, but do you have or can you share some of your diet recipes? I have been on a ketogentic diet for about 12 days now and I found my headaches have gone away, but I am wondering if that is the best diet for trying to get pregnant. Any ideas or help would be amazing.
    Such a great story and thank you for sharing. Hoping to have the same success 🙂

    • Hi Kathleen! I think that a keto diet would be just fine for getting pregnant, if that’s what your body needs. I don’t have many specific recipes that I use because I’m usually cooking a meat with some kind of vegetable. We use a lot of mashed cauliflower and zucchini noodles or spaghetti squash as a sub for potatoes and pasta. I do have several Pinterest boards that I use for recipes and inspiration and many of the recipes on there are ones I use regularly or want to try soon. Wishing you the best of luck!! The benefits of eating this way go way beyond pregnancy, but it’s definitely the icing on the cake!

  6. Hi Carrie,
    Reading your post just gave me the inspiration and hope I needed. My husband and I have been TTC for 6 years now and like you mentioned there is a point where you feel depressed and lose hope that it will ever happen. I just recently started low carb diet and was looking around for success stories that would give me some hope and I came across your success story. Thank you for sharing this for all of us that have tried and I wish soon I can share my own story with those who have experienced the same struggles.

  7. Hi Carrie! I agree! Thank you for the inspiration! I was remarried almost 3 years ago. We had our 1st miscarriage in 2016. I just went through my second miscarriage in March of this year. I had changed my diet and started using my essential oils for fertility and hormones and that is what I believe helped in conceiving. After the 2nd miscarriage I quit caring and went back to eating whatever and not taking my supplements. This last week I decided to try the eating better and using my oils and praying that my eggs get healthy! I was to the doctor last week and was told that my egg supply is low. I know you didn’t have miscarriages but your story still gives hope to those of us struggling. I love to hear that you kept trusting in Gods timing! I have been as well, I may have my ups and downs but if its Gods plan it will happen! Thanks, Lindsey

    • Hi Lindsey, thanks for sharing your experience. The road to parenthood has been so frustrating for so many of us. I am so sorry for your losses. I did go on to have several miscarriages while trying for baby #2. There are several posts about that here on the blog. It can be so devastating. I think my miscarriages probably had to do with our age. I was 38 when I had my last miscarriage and my hubby was 45. I will be praying for you on your journey!

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